As I continue my healing process, more and more pieces to the puzzle keep coming my way. When I say puzzle, I'm refering to my last "relationship", a rather strange, sabotage and lacking all of the basic fundamentals that every relationship or friendship should have...respect, communication, honesty and balance. I was silly to not acknowledge the situation and reality of it from the start. Instead I keep hoping things would get better...unfortunately, I opened my mind and heart too much, letting my strenghts as well as my weaknesses out in the open, worse move anyone can do, you are basically doing all the damage because the other person will play and feed your strenghts and flaws equally creating a battle in your own mind, in which you feel you are right but are you really? The other person just watches as you struggle, continues doing his own thing and eventually once you have tired yourself but are still confused, he will simply blame you for the arguments and end the relationship.
Funny how we don't realize this game until we remove ourselves from the situation, have some time to clear our minds and then are presented with the same situation, the only difference being is the other person has no control or knowledge of the status your mind.
Here are a few samples, someone who said I was too argumentative...am I? or was I caught up in too many set up arguments?
I edited the last post simply because I want to put all that behind me, I still hurt, but I have come to an understanding of the situation and as painful as it might be, I am better off without him. Someone who insults you, physically rejects you, mentally tears you up, lies and cheats and doesn't take the good opportunities that life gives him, is someone not worth having around.
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