You cannot change other people. You love them they way they are or you don't. You accept them they way they are or you don't. To try to change them to fit what you want them to be is like trying to change a dog for a cat, or a cat for a horse. That is a fact. They are what they are; You are what you are. You dance or you don't dance. You need to be completely honest with yourself- to say what you want, and see if you are willing to dance or not. You must understand this point, because it is very important when you truly understand. You are likely to find out what is true about others, and not just what you see.-Don Miguel Ruiz